Exploring your full sexual potential, part 18/24: Overcoming defensive detachment

In her 1983 book ‘The Early Development of Gender Identity’, the British research psychologist Elisabeth Moberley laid the foundation for a deeper understanding of same-sex attractions. Her contribution of the concept of defensive detachment is the groundwork for effective psychotherapeutic help that followed from a causal model. In this article, we will look into the mechanisms of detachment, and identify the challenge to recognize it when you are doing it. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 18/24: Overcoming defensive detachment

Why Gays Cannot Speak for Ex-gays

In this article, Joseph Nicolosi explains why gay activists cannot speak for ex-gays, or determine policy issues for all people who are self-identified as bisexual, questioning or non-gay homosexual. Activists are often seen as the right spokesperson by the general public and the media, but these gay-identified persons cannot share the other person’s innermost feelings. Therefore, they cannot act as representative for his personal and social interests on behalf of him. Continue reading Why Gays Cannot Speak for Ex-gays

The Gay Related Complex, part 1 of 2.

In 2012 the Dutch minister of Health, Edith Schippers, ended the financing of psychotherapeutic counseling for persons seeking help for unwanted same-sex attractions. She had been been approached by a Dutch gay-lib organization. “Homosexuality is not a mental disorder, therefore it does not warrant treatment. It is totally normal”, Schippers declared in parliament. This stance, however, raises some serious questions. Does homosexuality really give just as few problems as heterosexuality does? Is it merely a coincidentally occurring phenomenon? Are there no inherent worries and profound concerns about the emotional, psychological, social and perhaps for some, even spiritual health of the individual? And is the term “mental disorder” the be-all-and-end-all of psychotherapeutic help? In this article, we investigate psychotherapy, and address the political implications of our findings. Continue reading The Gay Related Complex, part 1 of 2.