The proposed bill makes wrong assumptions, violates therapeutic standards, and contributes to further neglect. Above all, it does not tackle or scrutinize the highly contested gay-affirming and gender-affirming therapies. In doing so, the NZ youth is not being protected but one-sidedly handed over to the whims of the day, after which the book on the subject is closed. Continue reading The harm caused by a therapy ban in NZ, part 8 of 8: “Bad legislation”
The most harmful drawback of the proposed NZ legislation is that it will no longer be legitimate to talk to younger people in-depth about homosexuality. No more searching for answers, no more looking under the hood of the car or lifting the car up, only a ready-made identity to slip into, flags to wave, and parades to attend. Each therapist who is sincere, aims to create room for content, not to tackle society, but to help the client ask him/herself: what the hell am I doing?. Continue reading The harm caused by a therapy ban in NZ, part 7 of 8: “The new taboo is harmful”
The proposed legislation is not an ultimate solution for mental health care, it will become the ultimate problem. There are four backlash issues that inevitably must lead to professional condemnation of this fear-mongering. Can we already predict undesirable dramas stemming from this bill? Yes. And have they been taken into account? No. The Bill aims to induce a chilling effect on dissidence. To this end, the notion of thought crimes is introduced. More than 10.000 individuals in NZ have written a letter of protest. The professional mental health community is under siege. Continue reading The harm caused by a therapy ban in NZ, part 6 of 8: “The emergence of backlashes”
At the EU summit dinner table in Brussels in June 2021, emotions got high as several long-time EU member‑states tried to bully the Hungarian nation into canceling a recent law. Hungary wants to protect minors from being fed incorrect information without parental knowledge or consent about sexuality and the recently hyped transdelusion. Hungarian people realize that they have so little grip on matters of upbringing that it takes state power to forge space for parental involvement. They now pay the price as radicalized LGBT-activists in the EU parliament (most notably activist Sophie in ‘t Velt, NL) try to stigmatize Hungary’s majority wish and to set Europe up against the government.
I was reading the daily news on my smartphone the other day, minding my own business, when all of a sudden, I saw this new campaign to be launched to change professional soccer into a more inclusive environment for, as they put it: ‘gay’ and ‘bisexual’ soccer players. Because in Belgium, there are no openly ‘gay’ professional soccer players. And that has to change, so we are informed. Damn, June. Pride Month. I had forgotten. Mosquitoes, sunburn, and Pride Month. How could I forget? Not to mention horny frogs, croaking in my pond all night. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 37: “I can’t play soccer for nuts”
When a young man leaves an enmeshed relationship with his mother, it won’t be an easy journey. The sense of self was nipped in the bud due to boundaries being blurred. But now that he is venturing into new terrain, empty feelings are bound to arise. It is so pervasive that countless men who sexualize same-sex attractions will ultimately resort back to their old state of enmeshment. Many remain there for the rest of their days. In others, enmeshment will flicker like an orange traffic light. When emptiness becomes the gut feeling, it is then that the ready-made “gay” identity sounds like a gift from heaven. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 36: Enmeshment and the “gay” identity
A mother can be a major source of enmeshment. Why don’t naked girls fill my dreams?’ This question lingers ever so often in the mind of men who struggle with same-sex attractions (SSA’s) and for whom those attractions appear to leave so much unfulfilled in their life. It seems as if there is a lack of attraction to the opposite sex. The truth is, however, that men who experience SSA’s have just as many opposite-sex attractions (OSA’s) as anyone else but they do not perceive those feelings as sexual. Enmeshment is standing in the way. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 35: Enmeshment with the mother
If sexuality is never fixed like a stone but more like the moving of sand as the tide flows in and out, how can one create new configurations? In this article, we will start tackling the issues that block the road to new insights. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 33: The forces behind same-sex attractions
In 2019, science proved for once and for all that there is no genetic proof for the slogan ‘born that way”, that is to say, born with an exclusive potential for homosexual behavior and a total lack of heterosexual capacity. When studying sexuality, there are no genetic differences to be found between so-called “groups” who would have separate sexualities. Genetically identifiable groups do not exist.
To this end, the full genetic makeup of a half million random people in the US and the UK was chartered by a team of scientists. It was published in the magazine Science on the 4th of September 2019 by Benjamin Neale and 19 international colleagues.
“There is certainly no single genetic determinant for same-sex behavior (sometimes referred to as the “gay gene” in the media). All measured common variants do not allow meaningful prediction of an individual’s sexual preference. The researchers emphasize the importance of resisting simplistic conclusions”. Continue reading Science finds no genetic origin of homosexual behavior
Human life can be seen as a pattern of emotional, physical, and spiritual growth. It is like the ocean beating on the shore as we grow older, forming a never-ending pattern of bumps and cracks in the sand. In paradox psychology, we recognize that thoughts and feelings can even be at odds with one another while the tide of life flows in and out, creating the small mounds of sand and then washing them away again. In one-dimensional psychology, however, the coming and going of the tide (or feelings and behavior) are denied, and everything is brought down to a simple and cheap slogan: born that way. That is to say, it has always been that way and will always stay that way. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 31: Attachment theory