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Exploring your full sexual potential, part 16: Heighten your self-esteem

Men who experience SSA’s are switching off in their daily lives toward those who live around them. They feel that they are not connected to society, and are the odd man out. The way to get out of this predicament is quite simple: switch on again. Homosexuality is not just a question of gender low self-esteem, it is low self-esteem all around. Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.  Here is how. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 16: Heighten your self-esteem

Exploring your full sexual potential, part 14: Switching on and off, theoretical aspects

How come you can look at men, admire them, watch porn about men (sometimes even having sex with men), but never seem to get that lasting basic satisfaction that you are yearning for? Why does it wear off so fast? After all, a holiday in Alaska or Hawaii doesn’t wear off at that rate. What are you doing wrong? It seems as if you are incessantly filling your private little masculinity bucket with maleness that you glean from others (men are great), but next day the bucket is empty again. It is quite simple: there is a hole in the bucket. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 14: Switching on and off, theoretical aspects

Exploring your full sexual potential,‭ ‬part‭ ‬12:‭ ‬OSA-game‭ ‬#1

Nothing is more fun than playing games with old feelings that haunt you.‭ Kids play games with mingled feelings all the time, and it is a great way to get over them. ‬One of those spooks is the opposite sex, the elusive feeling for women.‭ Here is‬ a game which helps to get to the bottom of your feelings:‭ ‬the Opposite Sex Attractions Game,‭ ‬number‭ ‬1. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential,‭ ‬part‭ ‬12:‭ ‬OSA-game‭ ‬#1

Exploring your full sexual potential, part 11: The Wolf Pack Game

3-w-pakMen who experience same-sex attractions (SSA’s) are often bewildered by them, and fail to understand the origins of these feelings. Very often, these men will also express feelings of inferiority. SSA’s can be considered street signs, pointing in the direction of unresolved issues. There are lengthy ways through psychotherapy to overcome feelings of inferiority, but there is also a short-cut: the Wolf Pack Game. In this article we will demonstrate the feelings and the way in which the Wolf Pack Game can help. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 11: The Wolf Pack Game

Exploring your full sexual potential, part 7: Manfred’s answers

In this article, we take a look at the answers that Manfred sent me from Bavaria in Germany, a boy in Squaw Camp on a pony, dreaming of riding with the male warriors. The self-help questionnaire is a quick and efficient way to pinpoint psycho-sexual identity issues which lay at the core of Same-Sex Attractions. Sadly, gay pressure groups spread disheartening political spin, claiming: “no sexual orientation, gender identity or gender expression constitutes a disorder, disease or shortcoming of any sort”. If this were to be true, then there would be no difference between the answers written by a person with exclusively Opposite-Sex Attractions (OSA’s) and someone with SSA’s. That is not the case, however. Almost invariably with men who experience SSA’s, there are discrepancies between the usual development into experiencing OSA’s and theirs. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 7: Manfred’s answers

Exploring your full sexual potential, part 6: A Self-help Questionnaire

In this article we present a self-help questionnaire,‭ ‬designed to help men who experience Same-Sex Attractions‭ (‬SSA‭) ‬understand their psycho-sexual development,‭ ‬and to help focus on crucial issues.‭ ‬We do this because the understanding of the psychology of‭ ‬sexual development has come a long way in the past twenty years.‭ Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 6: A Self-help Questionnaire

Exploring your full sexual potential,‭ ‬part‭ ‬5:‭ The‬ emerging of heterophobia

Homosexuality is basically heterophobia,‭ ‬a deeply negative attitude towards heterosexuality at a very personal level. It is an acquired state of mind,‭ ‬with which you were not born.‭ ‬Its roots lie in childhood,‭ and it has been ‬a companion for so long.‭ ‬But not from birth.‭ ‬You have a deeply ingrained negative attitude towards intimacy with the opposite sex,‭ ‬and usually also with those who indulge in it.‭ One doesn’t wear it one’s sleeve,‭ ‬but deep down inside there is fear,‭ ‬repulsion and resistance.‭ Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential,‭ ‬part‭ ‬5:‭ The‬ emerging of heterophobia

Exploring your full sexual potential, part 4: Breaking free from Squaw Camp

breaking-free-squaw-camp1In the previous article, we showed that your problem is living in Squaw Camp during your childhood years. There you learnt to suppress and deny any hint of opposite-sex attractions. But how did you manage to survive? What happened to you, in what way did you learn to comply? And, above all, how do you break free from those shackles? Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 4: Breaking free from Squaw Camp

Exploring your full sexual potential, part 3: Living in a glass wigwam

Men struggling with Same Sex Attractions often feel a sort of weird alienation from the rest of society, so bewildering that they even assume they may have a genetic disorder. “I was born that way”, so they soothe themselves, although science has proven them wrong. You feel far away from men, and yet you long for them. You feel close to women, and yet, that is not your deepest desire. In this third installment, we take a look at the feelings of alienation that one may experience with Same Sex Attractions: living in Squaw Camp in a glass wigwam. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 3: Living in a glass wigwam

Exploring your full sexual potential, part 2: The sensitivity mismatch

square-oneIn the previous chapter we ended by saying: “you need to feel good about Square One, to be continued”. Let us take a look at Square One, the way you always operate, and have done for as long as you can remember. We will focus on your sensitivity, and on how difficult it is to identify with men who are far less sensitive. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 2: The sensitivity mismatch