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Exploring your full sexual potential, part 34: Beyond enmeshment lies the void

The term enmeshment describes a relationship where no boundaries can clearly be distinguished. The relationship takes on the form of a unity like two adjacent vine plants who appear to have become a single flourish of green and color. When a whole nuclear family does the same, then boundaries evaporate, or no boundaries may perhaps ever come into being at all. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 34: Beyond enmeshment lies the void

You cannot convert from one sex to the other, pediatricians prove

Pediatricians prove that the idea of converting from one sex to the other is not based on any science. They have proven that biology does not change, it is only the mental self-image which is at stake, and usually temporarily. Up to 98% of gender identity conflicts resolve over time. Biden, however, wants men with the ‘Gender Identity Conflict’ mental condition to compete in sports with natural biological women as if they were real women. Where transgenders seek moral equality, Biden takes it one step further and introduces physical equality. Those dudes are women alright, can’t see the difference, so he claims. Now, what on earth gave him that idea? Collision alert! Continue reading You cannot convert from one sex to the other, pediatricians prove

Exploring your full sexual potential, part 33: The forces behind same-sex attractions

If sexuality is never fixed like a stone but more like the moving of sand as the tide flows in and out, how can one create new configurations? In this article, we will start tackling the issues that block the road to new insights. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 33: The forces behind same-sex attractions

For radical trans-activism, critical thinking has become ‘offensive’

There are some things trans activists simply don’t want to learn about. That’s one of the lessons from a recent and on-going attempt to torpedo a study about gender dysphoria. In a letter dated January 27, 2021, the radical-activist California LGBTQ Health and Human Services Network recently discouraged people with gender dysphoria from participating in a study by the UCLA Semel Institute. Why? Continue reading For radical trans-activism, critical thinking has become ‘offensive’

96% of transgender youth engage in self-harm: study

A new study reveals that virtually all transgender students are self-harming in Scotland. The pro-gay “Stonewall” school report for Scotland with the University of Cambridge shows 96 percent of the country’s transgender youth engage in self-destructive behavior, including cutting themselves. The report also found “incredibly high levels” of mental health issues in transgenders. Continue reading 96% of transgender youth engage in self-harm: study

Science finds no genetic origin of homosexual behavior

In 2019, science proved for once and for all that there is no genetic proof for the slogan ‘born that way”, that is to say, born with an exclusive potential for homosexual behavior and a total lack of heterosexual capacity. When studying sexuality, there are no genetic differences to be found between so-called “groups” who would have separate sexualities. Genetically identifiable groups do not exist.

To this end, the full genetic makeup of a half million random people in the US and the UK was chartered by a team of scientists. It was published in the magazine Science on the 4th of September 2019 by Benjamin Neale and 19 international colleagues.

There is certainly no single genetic determinant for same-sex behavior (sometimes referred to as the “gay gene” in the media). All measured common variants do not allow meaningful prediction of an individual’s sexual preference. The researchers emphasize the importance of resisting simplistic conclusions”. Continue reading Science finds no genetic origin of homosexual behavior

Exploring your full sexual potential, part 32: Am I a wimp?

“Am I good enough as a male?”, that is the question. In his unique book ‘No More Mr. Nice Guy’, therapist Robert Glover explains how an incessant ‘Nice-Guy’ attitude can become a prison, doing more harm than good. During an email exchange, I had recommended the book to Daniel. He found the book to be staggering. After three weeks, Daniel said how hard it was, however, to put his defensive shields down and stop habitually being the nice guy under each and every circumstance. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 32: Am I a wimp?

Exploring your full sexual potential, part 31: Attachment theory

Human life can be seen as a pattern of emotional, physical, and spiritual growth. It is like the ocean beating on the shore as we grow older, forming a never-ending pattern of bumps and cracks in the sand. In paradox psychology, we recognize that thoughts and feelings can even be at odds with one another while the tide of life flows in and out, creating the small mounds of sand and then washing them away again. In one-dimensional psychology, however, the coming and going of the tide (or feelings and behavior) are denied, and everything is brought down to a simple and cheap slogan: born that way. That is to say, it has always been that way and will always stay that way. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 31: Attachment theory

New England Journal Medicine wants sex removed from birth certificates

Many people, even in the medical establishment, are now seen to be caving in to the relentness attacks on scientific paradigms by a group of radical American lawfirms. Moderate thinking is being removed from scientific research and education. The latest example is the once prestigious and reliable New England Medical Journal, which published an article declaring biological sex irrelevant. We read how the mere word “biological sex” is treated as if it were “offensive” to 0.2% of the population, a fringe group of deeply conflicted individuals who label themselves as “transgender” forefront activists. By removing the word ‘anatomical sex’ from birth certificates, the mental confusion then seems to be less conflicted. Biological sex, so society is increasingly led to believe, would be merely “an option”.

In the latest issue of the NEMJ, two doctors and a lawyer have written that it’s time to do away with putting a newborn baby’s biological sex — as demonstrated by its external genitalia — on birth certificates. Continue reading New England Journal Medicine wants sex removed from birth certificates

Striking down Florida Counseling Ban, part 2

November 20, 2020, may go down as the day the tide began to turn against government bans on therapies that allow clients with unwanted same-sex attractions to pursue change. In this article, we take a closer look at this stunningly rational decision. A majority of the three judge panel of the 11th Circuit Court of Appeals ruled that speech in the therapists’ office is to be seen as speech and not as professional conduct. Hence the first US amendment cannot be violated. They also found that the ban ordinances in Florida are content-based and viewpoint-based restrictions on speech. It is therefore the content itself which is being contested. Restrictions of these sorts are illegal. Continue reading Striking down Florida Counseling Ban, part 2