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Exploring your full sexual potential, part 29: Paradox psychology

One of the greatest contributions to science by the late Joseph Nicolosi, Ph.D., was his revealing the existence of double-binds. Painstakingly, he demonstrated how men who experience same-sex attractions are often caught up in a set of totally contradictory feelings, more often than when one experiences opposite-sex attractions. Not only are they contradictory, they appear to be incompatible. A world of paradoxes comes into view which cannot be understood in a straightforwardly way. Paradoxes feel uncomfortable and yearn intensely to be resolved. This article aims to change the usual narrative and to come to peace with them. They are very private friends. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 29: Paradox psychology

No, coronavirus is not an ‘LGBTQ’ victimhood issue

The opinion editor of The Washington Examiner, Brad Polumbo, writes on the 16th of March 2020: “As if we needed more evidence that progressive, identity politics activism is a grift, several left-wing groups that fundraise off of gay and transgender rights are greedily trying to turn the coronavirus into a victimhood issue. A letter that was constructed is just another cynical attempt by left-wing gay and transgender activist organizations to fuel the fake victimhood narrative they need to keep their donor base engaged.” Continue reading No, coronavirus is not an ‘LGBTQ’ victimhood issue

The risk of lgbt-ideology in school curriculum

In this article, British writer Belinda Brown investigates the consequences of embedding new and radical ‘lgbt’-ideology in the school curriculum. She investigates the scientific facts about same-sex attractions, and concludes that an accurately informed decision making process should be encouraged, instead of blindly promoting homosexuality as an indifferent affair. “This is the direction in which we should be guiding our young people. But that won’t happen while the LGBT lobby is in charge”, so she argues. Continue reading The risk of lgbt-ideology in school curriculum

Exploring your full sexual potential, part 28: “Victims feel too much”

In the radical gay-lib ideology, much emphasis is placed on being a victim. It has become the core of all activist thinking these days, justifying a war on others. But cultivating victim-hood has a down-side. It robs a person from assuming a more assertive and powerful stance. Weakness comes up and the chances of reaching goals wither away. Sometimes, being a victim has an authentic cause, but more often than not, the stance becomes addictive. People who are highly sensitive are particularly prone to feeling like a victim. In this article, we will investigate that problem. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 28: “Victims feel too much”

Gender Identity Confusion, part 4: “Transgender activism delivers a hoax”

In this article, we analyze propaganda coming from activist transgender websites. We will show how, for example, Julia Serano is adding new paradigms to the Western narrative in an effort to mainstream the most extreme views that activists can generate. The world is being turned upside down in order to re-define a personal sense of normality. Continue reading Gender Identity Confusion, part 4: “Transgender activism delivers a hoax”

Gender Identity Confusion, part 2: “The Realities Of Suicides”

Little does the general population know the realities of life as a transgender. Gay-lib disinformation campaigns appear to deliberately keep everyone ignorant. Unfortunately, gender confusion is not a state of happy bliss in which an individual has supposedly become “who he is”. That is far too simple. It is an ongoing turbulent mental condition which consists of auto-aggressive behavior with an endlessly churning maelstrom of sadness, hatred and self-harm. Bystanders are paralyzed in their responses, beholding seemingly true Martians in their midst. The metamorphosis looks human and yet non-human, or at least, not like me. Awestruck, the on-lookers know no reflex but to gaze. Continue reading Gender Identity Confusion, part 2: “The Realities Of Suicides”

Gender Identity Confusion, part 1: A New Epidemic In Western Society

In the last five years, “transgender” is being hyped by liberal media as the new human rights issue. It is made to look exciting and exotic, as if anthropologist Margaret Mead, renowned for her 1940 expeditions to study tribes in the Pacific Ocean, has discovered a new island. This aggressive crusade has eclipsed the emancipation movement of the 20th century when women’s rights and homosexuality were the core themes. We see mental problems being denied out of existence, thereby breaking with a 100 year tradition of sound research. In this series, we will demonstrate how the well-trodden paths of psychiatric facts are making way for a mythological dreamy state. Continue reading Gender Identity Confusion, part 1: A New Epidemic In Western Society

Exploring your full sexual potential, part 27: Were You Really All That Bullied?

If you feel you were bullied at some time as a child, resentment can be carried on to adult life. That feeling can grow way out of hand, far more than necessary. What happens if we replace the word ‘bullying’ with the term ‘connection issues’? What if we see bullying as a dynamic interaction between two persons with equal power who fail to connect? There is talk of power imbalance. Big bad other guy, poor little me. Let us take a shot at another angle: was it all so one-sided? Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 27: Were You Really All That Bullied?

Exploring your Full Sexual Potential, part 26, “The Dance of Defensive Detachment With Its Counterpart: Same-Sex Attractions”

Matthew from Nebraska reached out by email the other day, asking “What is about the need for external male affirmation that still creeps up now and then?” He went on to explain that on some days he still feels inferior, or as he calls it ‘something other than maleness’. His most vital question at this time is: “Why do I still have the desire and yet at the same time hatred for certain men?” Continue reading Exploring your Full Sexual Potential, part 26, “The Dance of Defensive Detachment With Its Counterpart: Same-Sex Attractions”