“Am I good enough as a male?”, that is the question. In his unique book ‘No More Mr. Nice Guy’, therapist Robert Glover explains how an incessant ‘Nice-Guy’ attitude can become a prison, doing more harm than good. During an email exchange, I had recommended the book to Daniel. He found the book to be staggering. After three weeks, Daniel said how hard it was, however, to put his defensive shields down and stop habitually being the nice guy under each and every circumstance. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 32: Am I a wimp?
Human life can be seen as a pattern of emotional, physical, and spiritual growth. It is like the ocean beating on the shore as we grow older, forming a never-ending pattern of bumps and cracks in the sand. In paradox psychology, we recognize that thoughts and feelings can even be at odds with one another while the tide of life flows in and out, creating the small mounds of sand and then washing them away again. In one-dimensional psychology, however, the coming and going of the tide (or feelings and behavior) are denied, and everything is brought down to a simple and cheap slogan: born that way. That is to say, it has always been that way and will always stay that way. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 31: Attachment theory
Many people, even in the medical establishment, are now seen to be caving in to the relentness attacks on scientific paradigms by a group of radical American lawfirms. Moderate thinking is being removed from scientific research and education. The latest example is the once prestigious and reliable New England Medical Journal, which published an article declaring biological sex irrelevant. We read how the mere word “biological sex” is treated as if it were “offensive” to 0.2% of the population, a fringe group of deeply conflicted individuals who label themselves as “transgender” forefront activists. By removing the word ‘anatomical sex’ from birth certificates, the mental confusion then seems to be less conflicted. Biological sex, so society is increasingly led to believe, would be merely “an option”.
In the latest issue of the NEMJ, two doctors and a lawyer have written that it’s time to do away with putting a newborn baby’s biological sex — as demonstrated by its external genitalia — on birth certificates. Continue reading New England Journal Medicine wants sex removed from birth certificates
November 20, 2020, may go down as the day the tide began to turn against government bans on therapies that allow clients with unwanted same-sex attractions to pursue change. In this article, we take a closer look at this stunningly rational decision. A majority of the three judge panel of the 11th Circuit Court of Appeals ruled that speech in the therapists’ office is to be seen as speech and not as professional conduct. Hence the first US amendment cannot be violated. They also found that the ban ordinances in Florida are content-based and viewpoint-based restrictions on speech. It is therefore the content itself which is being contested. Restrictions of these sorts are illegal. Continue reading Striking down Florida Counseling Ban, part 2
A three-judge panel of the Eleventh Circuit Court of Appeals struck down laws that ban counselors from providing minor clients with help to reduce or eliminate unwanted same-sex attractions, behaviors, or gender confusion.
This is the first federal Court of Appeals decision on such laws since the 2018 U.S. Supreme Court decision in National Institute of Family & Life Advocates v. Becerra (NIFLA).
In a recently published article, former gay activist James Parker from Australia writes about how the new mayor of Perth (State of Western Australia) gave radio listeners a lesson in biology and was savaged for his candour. Here we republish it.
By James Parker, 29th October 2020.
“Basil Zempilas, Western Australian media presenter and newly elected Lord Mayor of Perth, has expressed a personal opinion on his breakfast radio show about the transgender community. What Zempilas said to his show co-host Steve Mills was what science and biology has concretely stated for millennia: “If you’ve got a penis, mate, you are a bloke. If you’ve got a vagina, you are a woman. Game over.” The result of this personal opinion? Perth’s LGBTQ+ community have responded with an intolerance that has gone into overdrive.
Is being perfect a blessing or a curse? In paradox psychology, we view perfectionism as a two-sided coin. Both statements are true, in the same person and at the same time. This is the core of paradox psychology, a way of viewing human life as an array of opposites, which never appear to meet. They seem irreconcilable, and yet, they are there. All we need to do is to investigate them until the next paradox comes along, which we then investigate also. After some time, the original paradox just fades out of view, out of importance. We do not resolve the issue, we transcend it. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 30: the two-sided coin of perfectionism
The American Journal of Psychiatry says it got it wrong last year when it came to analyzing the numbers in a large study of transgender patients undergoing sex-reassignment surgery. Last fall, the journal published the results of the study and said it found the surgeries improved patients’ mental health. But this week, CBN News found out that as of 2020 the journal had retracted its findings, saying a second look at the subject found no improvement at all. According to Life Site News, the authors now say that gender-confused people who undergo ‘gender-reassignment’ surgery are more likely to be treated for anxiety disorders than those who don’t have such surgery. Mainstream media are now, however, engaged in a cover-up, Continue reading Psychiatric Journal admits: surgery and hormones are not the way to go with gender-confusion
One of the greatest contributions to science by the late Joseph Nicolosi, Ph.D., was his revealing the existence of double-binds. Painstakingly, he demonstrated how men who experience same-sex attractions are often caught up in a set of totally contradictory feelings, more often than when one experiences opposite-sex attractions. Not only are they contradictory, they appear to be incompatible. A world of paradoxes comes into view which cannot be understood in a straightforwardly way. Paradoxes feel uncomfortable and yearn intensely to be resolved. This article aims to change the usual narrative and to come to peace with them. They are very private friends. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 29: Paradox psychology
The opinion editor of The Washington Examiner, Brad Polumbo, writes on the 16th of March 2020: “As if we needed more evidence that progressive, identity politics activism is a grift, several left-wing groups that fundraise off of gay and transgender rights are greedily trying to turn the coronavirus into a victimhood issue. A letter that was constructed is just another cynical attempt by left-wing gay and transgender activist organizations to fuel the fake victimhood narrative they need to keep their donor base engaged.” Continue reading No, coronavirus is not an ‘LGBTQ’ victimhood issue