The proposed bill makes wrong assumptions, violates therapeutic standards, and contributes to further neglect. Above all, it does not tackle or scrutinize the highly contested gay-affirming and gender-affirming therapies. In doing so, the NZ youth is not being protected but one-sidedly handed over to the whims of the day, after which the book on the subject is closed. Continue reading The harm caused by a therapy ban in NZ, part 8 of 8: “Bad legislation”
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A unifying theory of the term ‘homophobia’, part 4: Gay-lib is running out of gas
With the nearing of yet again another activist ‘International Day Against Homophobia’ on May 17, the word ‘homophobia’ is central stage. But what to come up with this time? Usually, radical gay-lib highlights foreign legislation’s where homosexual acts between consenting adults are considered illegal. Gay-lib elicits rage by inciting the crowds with fantasies of people being tossed from walls by goggle-eyed imams, and as a result an irrational power emerges. As always, these strong feelings are then diverted to their own country for domestic use, even though homosexual behavior is not illegal in the West. With adrenaline now flowing through blood vessels, any objections to radical gay-lib campaigns in their own country can be hunted down and punished. Continue reading A unifying theory of the term ‘homophobia’, part 4: Gay-lib is running out of gas
Exploring your full sexual potential, part 16: Heighten your self-esteem
Men who experience SSA’s are switching off in their daily lives toward those who live around them. They feel that they are not connected to society, and are the odd man out. The way to get out of this predicament is quite simple: switch on again. Homosexuality is not just a question of gender low self-esteem, it is low self-esteem all around. Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending. Here is how. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 16: Heighten your self-esteem
Exploring Your Full Sexual Potential, part 13: Jeremy’s little sad notebook
Playing games is important. How are we to dig deeper into the sediments of old events which have made one feel unnecessarily different from others? There is an easy way: we can to do it as do little children. They invent their own games, share emotions, access their creativity and work their way out of it. Kids are great. Men who have lived their lives in Squaw Camp, have gotten to become frustrated at a deeply emotional level. But they are so used to this life, so used to the lack of alternatives, that their frustrations just seem to be part of who they are. So, let us use, or rather, make up games. Here is one: Jeremy’s little sad notebook. Continue reading Exploring Your Full Sexual Potential, part 13: Jeremy’s little sad notebook
Exploring your full sexual potential, part 12: OSA-game #1
Nothing is more fun than playing games with old feelings that haunt you. Kids play games with mingled feelings all the time, and it is a great way to get over them. One of those spooks is the opposite sex, the elusive feeling for women. Here is a game which helps to get to the bottom of your feelings: the Opposite Sex Attractions Game, number 1. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 12: OSA-game #1
Exploring your full sexual potential, part 11: The Wolf Pack Game
Men who experience same-sex attractions (SSA’s) are often bewildered by them, and fail to understand the origins of these feelings. Very often, these men will also express feelings of inferiority. SSA’s can be considered street signs, pointing in the direction of unresolved issues. There are lengthy ways through psychotherapy to overcome feelings of inferiority, but there is also a short-cut: the Wolf Pack Game. In this article we will demonstrate the feelings and the way in which the Wolf Pack Game can help. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 11: The Wolf Pack Game
Exploring your full sexual potential, part 10: Joshua and computer programs
In part 9 we demonstrated the temper rages that many SSA men went through at a very young age. I received an email from Joshua who recognized himself in the description. In this article, we intend to lift the veil off this shameful and embarrassing behavior. We will put temper rages center stage and explain the working of the mind as though it is run by computer scripts. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 10: Joshua and computer programs
Exploring your full sexual potential, part 9: Soul Murder
Thirty years ago, Dr. Leonard Shengold MD, introduced the concept of “soul murder” to the world of psycho-analytically based therapy. His insights in the book “Soul Murder” (1989) were well acclaimed, and also prove to be useful as a uniting concept that explains why men with same-sex attractions can on the one hand be close to women, but on the other hand fail to fall in love with them. Let us follow his narrative on the way in which the authentic male child cannot be found any more at an adult level, lost in the mists of time. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 9: Soul Murder
Exploring your full sexual potential, part 6: A Self-help Questionnaire
In this article we present a self-help questionnaire, designed to help men who experience Same-Sex Attractions (SSA) understand their psycho-sexual development, and to help focus on crucial issues. We do this because the understanding of the psychology of sexual development has come a long way in the past twenty years. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 6: A Self-help Questionnaire
Exploring your full sexual potential, part 5: The emerging of heterophobia
Homosexuality is basically heterophobia, a deeply negative attitude towards heterosexuality at a very personal level. It is an acquired state of mind with which you were not born. Its roots lie in childhood and it has been a companion for so long. But not from birth. You have a deeply ingrained negative attitude towards intimacy with the opposite sex and usually also with those who indulge in it. One doesn’t wear it one’s sleeve, but deep down inside there is fear, repulsion and resistance. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 5: The emerging of heterophobia