In his answers to the self-help questionnaire, Gregor from Ukraine sent me an array of traumatic memories of his boyhood on the farm where he grew up. As a child, he felt isolated and grew up to become extremely uncomfortable with the outside world. His fear of his peers is an issue which is seen very often in men struggling with same-sex attractions. We will show his answers, and then review them in relationship to (1) role of the father, (2) the role of the mother, (3) the role of peers and (4) Gregor’s anger and fear issues. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 8: The fear issue
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Exploring your full sexual potential, part 6: A Self-help Questionnaire
In this article we present a self-help questionnaire, designed to help men who experience Same-Sex Attractions (SSA) understand their psycho-sexual development, and to help focus on crucial issues. We do this because the understanding of the psychology of sexual development has come a long way in the past twenty years. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 6: A Self-help Questionnaire
Exploring your full sexual potential, part 5: The emerging of heterophobia
Homosexuality is basically heterophobia, a deeply negative attitude towards heterosexuality at a very personal level. It is an acquired state of mind with which you were not born. Its roots lie in childhood and it has been a companion for so long. But not from birth. You have a deeply ingrained negative attitude towards intimacy with the opposite sex and usually also with those who indulge in it. One doesn’t wear it one’s sleeve, but deep down inside there is fear, repulsion and resistance. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 5: The emerging of heterophobia
Exploring your full sexual potential, part 4: Breaking free from Squaw Camp
In the previous article, we showed that your problem is living in Squaw Camp during your childhood years. There you learnt to suppress and deny any hint of opposite-sex attractions. But how did you manage to survive? What happened to you, in what way did you learn to comply? And, above all, how do you break free from those shackles? Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 4: Breaking free from Squaw Camp
Exploring your full sexual potential, part 3: Living in a glass wigwam
Men struggling with Same Sex Attractions often feel a sort of weird alienation from the rest of society, so bewildering that they even assume they may have a genetic disorder. “I was born that way”, so they soothe themselves, although science has proven them wrong. You feel far away from men, and yet you long for them. You feel close to women, and yet, that is not your deepest desire. In this third installment, we take a look at the feelings of alienation that one may experience with Same Sex Attractions: living in Squaw Camp in a glass wigwam. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 3: Living in a glass wigwam