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Exploring your full sexual potential, part 20/24: Fear of Rejection

Strange how my arm clicks at night on the mouse and all of a sudden, the computer surfs to a nice porn site. I fail to see how my arm does that. My hand seems to move, and then: clickety click. This hunk appears. Hmm, not my type. Barely have I said that to myself, and clickety-click: Mr. Handsome is there smiling at me. Check out his self-confidence. Clickety-click. What do you know? Two guys looking absolutely amazing, having such fun together. How does my arm do it? It’s simple. My arm has led me to a nice safe environment: there is no one out there to reject me. My arm has found a coping mechanism for my fear of rejection. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 20/24: Fear of Rejection

The Gay Related Complex, part 8: Dealing with Coping Mechanisms

Homosexuality is an outdated concept. In this modern-day era, we bring forward that homosexuality does not exist as a separate sexuality in its own right. Sexuality does not come in isolated and separate categories such as plant, animal or mineral. Science demonstrates that human sexuality is fluid and not fixed into seperate immutable types. The sexualization of same-sex attractions is a coping mechanism, which the body is applying to try to deal adequately with the elements that constitute the Gay Related Complex. Continue reading The Gay Related Complex, part 8: Dealing with Coping Mechanisms

The Gay Related Complex, part 4: Sexual ‘Orientation’ is actually a Sexual ‘Fixation’

The concept of sexual ‘orientations’ is merely a figure of speech. Orientations do not exist as actual biological entities, but through repetition and activism, they have come to live a life of their own in the minds of the general public. What we actually see is chronic fixations, not orientations. In this article, we will describe this approach to sexual syndromes, notably the Don Juan Syndrome and the Sadomasochist Syndrome. In part 5, we will expand this to describe Same Sex Attractions. Continue reading The Gay Related Complex, part 4: Sexual ‘Orientation’ is actually a Sexual ‘Fixation’

Tribute to Dr. Joe Nicolosi Sr. from his wife, Linda

Dr. Joseph Nicolosi Sr. died suddenly this year. He was the founder of reparative therapy, and was one of the greatest contributers to the science of sexuology in the past three decades. With a keen insight and a great knowledge of the emperical literature on the subject, he wrote books about the phenomenon of same-sex attractions which make him stand out in the crowd. Continue reading Tribute to Dr. Joe Nicolosi Sr. from his wife, Linda

The Gay Related Complex, part 3: LGBT-psychology is a pseudo-science

Regular science understands homosexuality more than ever before. A whole complex of feelings and experiences can be identified which ultimately gives way to same-sex attractions. Before we analyze the Gay Related Complex, we need to look into the controversy with which radical gay-lib has confused the debate in the past three decades. Gay-lib has even created a science of its own, called LGBT-psychology. By boldly denying all underlying mechanisms, this frame of thought has led to therapeutic neglect. In this article, we will analyze the phenomenon, demonstrate how and why it is a pseudo-science, explore its historical roots, and explain in what way it is actually harmful to young people who are questioning what to make of life. Continue reading The Gay Related Complex, part 3: LGBT-psychology is a pseudo-science

The Gay Related Complex, part 1

In 2012 the Dutch minister of Health, Edith Schippers, ended the financing of psychotherapeutic counseling for persons seeking help for unwanted same-sex attractions. She had been been approached by a Dutch gay-lib organization. “Homosexuality is not a mental disorder, therefore it does not warrant treatment. It is totally normal”, Schippers declared in parliament. This stance, however, raises some serious questions. Does homosexuality really give just as few problems as heterosexuality does? Is it merely a coincidentally occurring phenomenon? Are there no inherent worries and profound concerns about the emotional, psychological, social and perhaps for some, even spiritual health of the individual? And is the term “mental disorder” the be-all-and-end-all of psychotherapeutic help? In this article, we investigate psychotherapy, and address the political implications of our findings. Continue reading The Gay Related Complex, part 1

Exploring your full sexual potential, part 19/24: Attaching and Detaching, the Snap Game

In part 18, we studied detachment from a theoretical perspective. In this article, we will demonstrate how it works in daily life. Men who predominantly experience Opposite Sex Attractions (OSA’s) attach to other men in a carefree way. But men who experience many Same Sex Attractions (SSA’s) also find themselves incessantly detaching from others. Two opposing forces appear to be at work: Attaching and Detaching. By means of a simple mind game, the Snap Game, you may start recognizing them. We will show three different insights that the game can lead to. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 19/24: Attaching and Detaching, the Snap Game