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A booklet about people who have changed

In the battle against proposed Californian law AB2943, a new website (Oncegay.com) has been formed to give people who have left homosexuality a voice. In a publication called “Changed” nearly 40 stories of individuals who have left homosexuality were compiled. Their stories of change were brought together to address California legislative bill AB294. It was given to each California senator on June 11th. On the 31st of August 2018, the bill AB2943 was repealed before being voted upon. Click here to view the booklet. Continue reading A booklet about people who have changed

Public protest STOPS Californian bill AB2943

On the website of “Mass Resistance”, a Massachussets based pro-family organization, we read,

On the last day of the session, California State Assembly member Evan Low, sponsor of bill AB 2943, capitulated to pressure and pulled the bill from the floor. Low is considered the most aggressive member of the California LGBT Legislative caucus. Absolutely everyone said that Bill AB 2943 bill was impossible to stop in the California Legislature. It was the crown jewel of the powerful LGBT lobby. Democrats supported it and Republicans were afraid to touch it. Tens of thousands of Christians contacted the legislators by phone and by email, creating an unexpected wave of resistance. Continue reading Public protest STOPS Californian bill AB2943

Exploring Your Full Sexual Potential, part 24: Love me tender, love me sweet

In this article we will analyze how, for many men, same-sex attractions work. Imagine a young man on an old photo to whose image you feel attracted. You see him and immediately he strikes a chord in you. He looks gentle, and yet he is male. He’s great. How does he do it? You can’t keep your eyes off him, and you find yourself dreaming of his looks, his tenderness while a secret longing sets in. Wouldn’t it be great to be intimate with him, and to close your eyes in a hug? Continue reading Exploring Your Full Sexual Potential, part 24: Love me tender, love me sweet

Exploring your full sexual potential, part 23: When Nasty Becomes Psychopath

In our previous articles (21 and 22), we started exploring the consequences of the narcissistic-triadic family constellation. Frustrations can make you needy (part 21). In part 22, we showed how in more severe cases ‘needy’ can become ‘nasty’. Now we will take it one step further and reveal how ‘nasty’ can even become ‘psychopathic’, the saddest coping strategy of them all. In the first part of this article, we will look at the diagnosis from different angles.  In part 2, we will look into the therapy by analyzing an email from James about his past life events. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 23: When Nasty Becomes Psychopath

Exploring your full sexual potential, part 22: When needy becomes nasty

It is difficult and shameful to acknowledge that you are needy. You do everything you can to gently help other people out. But you remain unseen. Even worse is handling the frustration that this leads to. There is anger and resistance. You are more angry than people realize, you can become nasty and because of this the shame keeps on growing. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 22: When needy becomes nasty

Exploring your full sexual potential, part 21: Being Needy

Neediness, your life consists of neediness. Needy as a kid, needy as an adult. But look at that guy out there, he doesn’t have that. Wow, look at that self-confidence. He is not needy, he is just great. He walks, hangs around, or just gazes. He does so with beautiful eyes, with nice hair, and a great body although he is not even a bodybuilder. How does he do it? I, on the other hand (so you feel,) am needy. Why isn’t he the same? Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 21: Being Needy

Exploring your full sexual potential, part 19: The Snap Game

In part 18, we studied detachment from a theoretical perspective. In this article, we will demonstrate how it works in daily life. Men who predominantly experience Opposite Sex Attractions (OSA’s) attach to other men in a carefree way. But men who experience many Same Sex Attractions (SSA’s) also find themselves incessantly detaching from others. Two opposing forces appear to be at work: Attaching and Detaching. By means of a simple mind game, the Snap Game, you may start recognizing them. We will show three different insights that the game can lead to. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 19: The Snap Game

Exploring your full sexual potential, part 18: Overcoming defensive detachment

In her 1983 book ‘The Early Development of Gender Identity’, the British research psychologist Elisabeth Moberley laid the foundation for a deeper understanding of same-sex attractions. Her contribution of the concept of defensive detachment is the groundwork for effective psychotherapeutic help that followed from a causal model. In this article, we will look into the mechanisms of detachment, and identify the challenge to recognize it when you are doing it. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 18: Overcoming defensive detachment

Exploring your full sexual potential, part 17: Creating freedom in conversations

In the previous part, we ended by saying: The more you focus on the feelings of the other person, the less you will be preoccupied with self-doubt and self-consciousness”. But what if the other person is very self-indulgent and you find yourself becoming part of the wallpaper in the process, as you have done so often? How does one handle such a situation? Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 17: Creating freedom in conversations