In our previous article in this series, we demonstrated that homosexuality does not exist as a separate entity. But before we expand on this, we need to understand why insights as these have become so highly contested in American society. Why do gay-lib activists insist that you were born this way and how has this unsubstantiated stance become mainstream? How can a century of psycho-analytic research have been silenced? To understand that, we need to explore the political context. Here is what happened and why. The content is shocking. Continue reading The Gay Related Complex, part 2: The political context
In 2012 the Dutch minister of Health, Edith Schippers, ended the financing of psychotherapeutic counseling for persons seeking help for unwanted same-sex attractions. She had been been approached by a Dutch gay-lib organization. “Homosexuality is not a mental disorder, therefore it does not warrant treatment. It is totally normal”, Schippers declared in parliament. This stance, however, raises some serious questions. Does homosexuality really give just as few problems as heterosexuality does? Is it merely a coincidentally occurring phenomenon? Are there no inherent worries and profound concerns about the emotional, psychological, social and perhaps for some, even spiritual health of the individual? And is the term “mental disorder” the be-all-and-end-all of psychotherapeutic help? In this article, we investigate psychotherapy, and address the political implications of our findings. Continue reading The Gay Related Complex, part 1 of 3.
In part 18, we studied detachment from a theoretical perspective. In this article, we will demonstrate how it works in daily life. Men who predominantly experience Opposite Sex Attractions (OSA’s) attach to other men in a carefree way. But men who experience many Same Sex Attractions (SSA’s) also find themselves incessantly detaching from others. Two opposing forces appear to be at work: Attaching and Detaching. By means of a simple mind game, the Snap Game, you may start recognizing them. We will show three different insights that the game can lead to. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 19/24: Attaching and Detaching, the Snap Game
In her 1983 book ‘The Early Development of Gender Identity’, the British research psychologist Elisabeth Moberley laid the foundation for a deeper understanding of same-sex attractions. Her contribution of the concept of defensive detachment is the groundwork for effective psychotherapeutic help that followed from a causal model. In this article, we will look into the mechanisms of detachment, and identify the challenge to recognize it when you are doing it. Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 18/24: Overcoming defensive detachment
In this article, Joseph Nicolosi explains why gay activists cannot speak for ex-gays, or determine policy issues for all people who are self-identified as bisexual, questioning or non-gay homosexual. Activists are often seen as the right spokesperson by the general public and the media, but these gay-identified persons cannot share the other person’s innermost feelings. Therefore, they cannot act as representative for his personal and social interests on behalf of him. Continue reading Why Gays Cannot Speak for Ex-gays
Recent years have seen countless—and specious—legislative, judicial, and administrative attempts to block those with unwanted same-sex attraction from seeking healing and transformation through professional therapy. In this article, Arthur Goldberg reviews the latest attempts by radical gay-lib to silence all forms of professional counseling other than gay label-affirmative, even if the latter is against the goals and wishes of the client. Continue reading Same-sex attraction and therapy: it’s time to let people choose
In the previous part, we ended by saying: “The more you focus on the feelings of the other person, the less you will be preoccupied with self-doubt and self-consciousness”. But what if the other person is very self-indulgent and you find yourself becoming part of the wallpaper in the process, as you have done so often? How does one handle such a situation? Continue reading Exploring your full sexual potential, part 17/24: Creating freedom in conversations